DATE YOUR WIFE

We met 25 years ago.

I was a high-school dropout. She was getting her associate’s in college.

Till that moment all the women I had encountered were nothing like Nidia.

Smart and gentle, her smile was second to none.

She inspired me to go back to school and still inspires me till this day.

We been married for almost 20 years.

How did we make it this far?

While I’m clearly not a relationship expert,

25 years have given me lessons, headaches and many victories.

Here's 3 commitments that have been huge in my marriage that can help you.:

#1: “Commit to communicate”

Everyone talks about how important it is but what does it really mean?

Communication is talking when you’re happy, talking when you’re sad, and talking when you really don't like each other.

Communication prevents arguments and disagreements from breaking the bond with the one person who has your back.

Learn to speak no matter the how uncomfortable or difficult. Be clear and be open.

#2: “Commit to learning”

This is a process so get ready to put in the work.

Understanding who your wife is is a commitment to learning everything about her.

It takes time, trials, arguments, honest conversations, and arguments to accomplish this.

Even after 25 years, I’m still learning things about my wife.

Commit to the process of learning your wife.

You’ll be a better man and husband for it.

Trust me.

#3: “Commit to growth”

The beauty in any realtionship is watching someone grow with you. When you commit to growth, you commit to maturing.

This means you’re no longer quick tempered but even faster to listen. You avoid dumb arguments. You genuinely support each other.

Committing to growth means staying when things aren't going so well.

Your commitment to growth helps you avoid issues that seemed big in the past because you’re focused on your maturity.

Commitment in marriage is work.

Committing to the work makes you better man and a better husband.

You can do it.