Restored Relationships
Earlier this year I made myself a promise.
No matter how hard it was, I was going to look at all my relationships,
And attempt to repair broken lines of friendship.
The key part was, that the friend had to be of value to me and my family.
Scanning the small circle of real friends that I had 2 people kept coming up.
The fear of what these conversations would be like started to creep in.
But, my desire to restore these vital relationships was greater than my fear.
So, we called, texted, and started the process.
Here we are (almost at the end of the year) and it's been one of the biggest moves this year.
If your’e wondering. I've been able to fully restore both of those relationships in the process.
Real, Authentic, Honest, and Loyal friends are hard to find or, better yet keep.
So fighting for people who fight for you shouldn't be a question.
If you're having a similar problem,
Here are 3 things to have in mind when restoring a broken relationship.
Humility- before we can heal from relationships that matter we must sometimes deal with some hurt from the past, confront it head-on, and have the conversations we might have avoided.
To restore anything we have to be ready in this way first.
When our hearts are humble, we can begin to open lines of restoring broken things.
Time- the old saying “ Time heals all things”
In this case, something that may have been broken for years won't all of a sudden be restored in a 20 min conversation, in some cases it can but Time is here too slowly.
Test the fibers of your friendship and help mend the foundational parts that have been not so strong.
Give it time.
MAINTENANCE- we almost lost this friend; how do we keep them for the long run?
You start changing the pattern that may have fueled the disconnect in the first place.
Pick up the phones, send a text, meet for coffee, and make the effort to be a friend beyond a need but a friend indeed, there to support, cheer and encourage.
Even if it makes you uncomfortable DO IT!
In my case. David & Andre, these guys are super important to not only my life but their advice in critical moments has saved me from countless headaches.
Between these 2 friends, I have 20 years of friendship so restoring these relationships needed to be done.
Who have you lost connection with, that adds value to your life?
What Relationship have you failed to restore?